I need to find out what I believe about a subject before I can be at peace with that subject. That means that I can’t teach it until I know it, and I can’t give my opinion about it until I know what my opinion is. And even more important, I can’t live it until I know what it is.
…You won’t know what you believe until you can get it down to 3-5 concepts.
The devil, they say, is in the details, and I knew well the devils that lurked and skulked in the details of my own story. But she had given me a hoard of new treasures. I’d learned more about here in that exhausted, murmuring hour than in all the many months before it. Lovers find their way by such insights and confidences: they’re the stars we use to navigate the ocean of desire. And the brightest of those stars are the heartbreaks and sorrows. The most precious gift you can bring to your lover is your suffering. So I took each sadness she confessed to me, and pinned it to the sky.